Reward good behavior in increasing increments, if he goes 5 minutes without doing it, reward him, when that gets easy bump it to 10 minutes and so on. Rewarding good behavior has been shown to be much more effective in autistic kids than punishing bad behavior

@A MyAutismTeam Member - you are so right! Positive reinforcement plays a huge part of changing behaviours. Our therapist told us we need to catch them doing what is right, and verbally praise them every time. They get the attention they seek from you when they are doing what is right, so chances are they are encouraged to keep doing it right. In terms of discipline, we had to teach my son the consequence of mis-behaving. He has a star chart where his rewards accumulate towards a greater physical treat like a new dvd or train. Through being consistent he knows I mean it when I say I will remove his stars. It gives him the choice, mis-behave and risk losing some of his stars that are heard earned - or comply.

It may also help to understand why the child is repeating the behaviour - see what happens just before and just after. You can spot whether they have a sensory need, are seeking your attention (whether its in the form of praise or a reprimand), or are trying to avoid a task or activity.

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@A MyAutismTeam Member, personally I hate that buzzword word "judge" when people use it to describe any criticism they get. They only have the power over you is what you give to them. I know my situation and my daughter so I rarely hear much that changes what we go through.

". . . the next level of discipline is abuse and I would be in jail and he would be in the states custody and still ur problem to deal with but without me to help c as lmao him down ...... which way would u like it???"

I'm not sure what your next level of discipline is but I don't recommend doing something so extreme that it will land you in jail. We just moved to Texas so we aren't aware of how easy it is to lose custody in this state. There used to be an expression, "Get ahold of yourself before you get ahold of your child." Cool down some before you take that next step. It's not simply a black and white case of no discipline, no corporal punishment vs. beating your son into complete submission on a daily basis. That's not what I wrote on alternatives and different tactics I've used.

Believe me, I'm well aware of being on the receiving end of a Dad who did some psychological abuse that I never forgot up until he died at the age of 94 in 2014. You don't want your kids to fear you. You want them to learn something. There's a difference.

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I know that wild look freeyoke, and I also am very familiar with the dangerous behavior, innocent he is not..... while u r talking to him he will laugh and tell u how he out smarted adults. Time out definitely don't work. I have tried positive reinforcement, bribery, negotiations, and the if u do this then we can do that. What makes it even harder is a lot of people judge you and say u don't dicipline him, even the school has said those words, my response was ..... maybe u r right, but the next level of discipline is abuse and I would be in jail and he would be in the states custody and still ur problem to deal with but without me to help c as lmao him down ...... which way would u like it??? They huffed and puffed but I was right,

It's worked great for me