Just wondering what he gets disciplined for that she doesn't? I have four kids and for the most part the rules are the same. That is one the things we have done is treat Jonathan just like his siblings. No hitting, no tantrums, no back talk, etc. If he acts out he gets punished just like his brother and sister do. Might be a different punishment, his siblings may not get to go to a friends house and he may lose computer time. One way to foster resentment is to have "special rules" for our special kids. Just because my Jonathan has autism does not mean he can't follow the same rules as everyone else. I feel your pain with trying to give your son attention and feeling like she is getting more. Maybe set aside time at night that is just for you two. Have her go to bed earlier, spend time with him alone. Read a book, watch a cartoon, paint a picture.

I think that's a great idea Casey. Special Patrick time each night. Maybe do Maddie time and Patrick time. And switch which parent is with who each night. The only agenda during that 20 minutes is to be present with that child. And also I think in most cases it is really important to have the same basic house rules for everyone. Maybe Maddie will need more of a visual to understand the rules and consequences but you will be honoring and helping her by treating the whole family the same.