Nope! stop right there. you chose and decide what you want to put in your head and fret over. read the stories about children with autism who do great things everyday. or about the adults who are married and have children. or the ones who are thriving in assisted living programs.
and yes, you will be frustrated everyday by everyday issues.
gas prices
your kids dating and wanting to drive
missing a sale
burning dinner
having to be a parent
putting up with a partner who got on your nerves that day
covid 19 related everything.
Whenver you decided to be a parent, you gave up majority of your life. and it doesn't stop just because your kid reaches 18 because you have grandkids to go through it all over again. you can't give up hope for your kiddo because you haven't even been exposed to all she can do. Just give it time. Give everything time. God does not make mistakes. tell yourself that everytime you get depressing thoughts in your head.
So you won't be able to move as on as soon as tomorrow but you are getting the process started and once the divorce is finalized trust me it will feel like tomorrow. your future is going to be great and your childrens future will be great and autism services are going to shock the sh!t out of you and you will be so at peace and in the right state of mind that you will be able to help the next person who feels like nothing is going their way.
time my sister, give it time. then watch and see what your little angel can do.

As a parent it is our job to enable our children, regardless if they autism or not. It is up to you, and important to be hopeful/believe that your child is capable. Unless, you can foresee the future, you’ll never know what your child is capable of until you provide them the opportunity.
The dream I had for my son is coming true, he is currently a senior and will be graduating from college in 2021. Never say never.

Good to have hope but be prepared the reality that many ASD adults face.

"In the United States, thirty-five percent of Autistic eighteen-year-olds go to college. Of those American Autistics with university diplomas, only 15 percent are employed. This 85 percent unemployment rate (among college-educated Autistic adults) is massive—the general population’s unemployment rate (at all education levels) is only 4.5 percent."

http://www.thinkingautismguide.com/2018/02/why-...

"According to a groundbreaking report published this year by Toronto's Redpath Centre, people with ASDs are disproportionately single compared with the rest of the population. Only 32.1 per cent of those surveyed indicated they ever had a partner, while 9 per cent stated they were currently married. In the general population, meanwhile, about half of all adults are married."

https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/relationsh...

It should be noted that the last quote is from 2013. The first big wave of kids diagnosed with ASD started in 1990 so most of them are under 30 now and were just 23 back in 2013 so the married rate probably is higher.

My 10 year old daughter has as ASD as well but I think she may want to get married in the future. There are far more ASD boys than ASD girls so I think she may have a lot of guys who can understand her better than the general population.

I haven't seen the Netflix show "Love on the Spectrum" yet but I'll check it out.

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/love-on-the-spec...

I try to make our daughter as independent as possible so she can help decide what's best for her. I want get get her an ABLE account started so she can have some money in the future like a 401K for the disabled. I've been unemployed for quite a while now so I understand the frustration and wonder when things will get better.

"Enjoy a happy life ever? Or will it always be fustrations?" It has gotten better for our daughter as she learns more and matures but she's always behind her peers and she's on her own path in life. We support her just more than most parents normally do but that's the way it is.