I is good they got you the aid however if it is in the IEP that your child gets a one on one then I would push the issue. It is not that I am against the aid helping other children but if your child is not getting what they need because of that there is a problem. I feel bad for saying this but I had the same issue and I flat out told them I do not care about the others children just mine. I said if there is an issue with another parent then let them fight as hard as I did for the aid.

The school often has other motives here, they give in and have an aid in the class thinking the parents are not going to find out and the other parents are going to think it is great there is an aid in the classroom. This is a game they play so if the aid is supposed to be yours stand your ground and if they complain about budget you tell them that the IEP is a contract they must comply with and if it is broken you will get a lawyer.

Playing nice with the schools gets you no where and playing hardball gets you everywhere

If its feedback from the aide and/or the teacher, maybe you could pass on a notebook meant for updates for u to read at the end of each day. My son had a planner where i would ask questions to the teacher and make notes and then my son would bring it home each day with comments for the teacher. I also try to talk with the teacher over the phone periodically as well to discuss hus progress and brainstorm ideas to overcome obstacles

Hi Ilhem, so you should be able to talk to the aide, whenever you want to. Don't feel like you have to go through the teacher or the teacher has to hear everything from you. The teacher and the aide will speak with each other. We had an aide for our son last year and we always spoke with her and with the teacher too.

Definitely tell the school/teacher that the aide is for your child and should not be the "classroom aide." If the aide is in the classroom for your son and is hired specifically for him, he should get the benefit. We don't have an aide this year and we have been upset about the change ever since.

yes,the teachers do play games and only tell you what they want you to know you get more info from the students.my son kept coming out of the class room with tape around his legs and I said why do you have tape? he say never mind..one of the students came up to me and told me that the teacher is taping wes to his chair?? she finally got a Velcro chair for him that was 2nd grade

I've been a one-on-one aide and my son has a one-on-one aide. Some teacher's discourage parents talking with the aide while others encourage it. In my opinion it is best if the parents develop a relationship with the aide as she/he is the one who will be with your child the most. But don't exclude the teacher. Questions about what happened during the day should be directed at the one-on-one aide but questions concerning progress should be directed at the teacher. I have a great relationship with my son's one-on-one aide.
As far as working with other students I think most one-on-one aides do work with all the kids. I know I did. The important thing to look at is are your child's needs being met. If so I wouldn't worry about the aide working with other but if your child's needs are being neglected then it's time for a change. There are times when your child doesn't need the aide directly with him and to encourage independence the aide should back away. During these times she needs to be aware of you child but it wouldn't be right for her to just sit back and watch.