One important aspect to consider when implementing a redirection strategy is that it can be difficult to use these techniques during a meltdown or tantrum. Recently, I have started encouraging my son to practice going to his "calming corner" where he can use his glitter shaker and engage in deep breathing exercises. The goal is for him to remember this routine and willingly go to his calming corner when he becomes dysregulated. Additionally, I want to ensure that the calming corner is not perceived as a punishment for experiencing strong emotions.

When my son was around three years old, he would hit and kick us whenever he became dysregulated. We noticed that he craved the pressure of hugs during these meltdowns. These hugs served two purposes: they protected us from being hit and provided the tactile sensation that Henry needed.

Thank you all for your support. It can feel so isolating at times when you do not have a support system. I appreciate all of you and I am taking these suggestions to heart!

I agree, redirecting to a pillow can be helpful. It is wearing to deal with not only their mental distress, but physical outbursts as well. We found some success by trying to make a nest in areas like the closet or under the bed, where it is safe and enclosed, often with a sheet hung up. She still even loves to sit in big boxes. We called this going to her safe space. When she became overly disregulated, we would talk with her about how it is ok to have big feelings and make big movements with her body. She just had to do those things in the appropriate place, where she can't hurt herself or others.

You can try to redirect her to a large pillow or something she can kick. My son was bad with windows for 2 or 3 years. Even now I can't give him hard toys or they go through the window. Hitting the window stopped when we moved even though I still watch for it. I am not sure if it's different apartment, different window coverings, or if he outgrew it.