Not everything is an emergency. Let them scream until you are ready. If they are not dying they don't need immediate attention. Just check them over for bee stings/bug bites or if they have a body part pinched.

Try to do one step at a time and focus on the priority issues first, such as eating, sleeping and toileting for your kid then you can focus on the rest. Also try many strategies until one will work and reach out to find more resources in the community. Remember to be regulated and do mindfulness for you so can do more your kids. It is important to be okay and care for yourself in order to help others.