I feel like you should consult an attorney for at least a consult. If public school cannot accommodate him, then they have to provide somewhere else. He has a right to a FAPE (free appropriate public education). If he is on a waiting list for 4 years, that obligation is not met. I would file a discrimination complaint with the state board of education about nonenrollment. Some states have free educational advocates. Kids with special needs usually get accommodations or alternate testing written in their IEPs. It's been my experience grade level written as the grade they should be in. In the actual classroom, the grade level would probably be the same in an inclusive school but the kid may be with children of different ages but still school age if they are in a classroom that is all special needs kids. Yes, there are different educational laws for special needs kids.

@kgates-when the twins were little and a school in Chicago did not have an autism class or any support, I campaigned to get all of that started in this school on the south side. OMG it was so hard. I fought everybody from CPS, Bd of Ed, counselors and teachers and aides. I petition everybody who would listen. I used social media, I researched names of folks who were educators and I just kept pushing and pushing until the school gave in and found a great educator who has since retired, but was there for them during grammar school and another who was there all through high school. I felt God had blessed me but it was not easy and I would not wish this fight on my worst enemy but as we know, if we don't advocate for our wonderful children....who will?

Also, if he's non verbal he can always point out the right answer instead of trying to communicate them. Research homeschooling for special needs children or homeschooling for Autism.

An school specifically for Autism is great. My son attended regular schools & struggles because they don't provide the ability to accommodate his Autism. My son was recently diagnosed because everyone just treated him like he was a bad kid when he was simply Autistic. If you have the ability to do homeschooling until he can get into the school he's on the waiting list for that would be great. He can still learn if he's non verbal. Maybe try teaching him sign language to communicate if it's an option for him to do. The first few years of school kids are usually learning shapes, colors, numbers, letters, etc. Just basics & mostly visual lessons & activities.

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