Unfortunately there is a waitlist everywhere around here. It’s something we struggle with in our job as we often have to refer for further screenings. I know she has autism, I just find it hard without an actual diagnosis to get the support from others because to them it’s just to hard to admit. Not to mention the resources available after an official diagnosis. We have early intervention and occupational therapy may be beneficial for her so I could look into that but other than that there isn’t much they can help with on the waitlist.

You at least might get a answer in my childhood they didn't have time or money for this. I found out way late in my 50's that I had autism +dd.

Can you check with the early intervention service in your state and see if they recommend any one or way to get an eval sooner? Call child pyschologist who take your insurance and see if they can provide or recommend anyone, also providers of aba therapy may have a recommendation for a diagnosis. Call the 800 for Autism Speaks and they may have a reccomendation.

I also suggest calling and checking on the waitlist once a week.

You need a diagnosis sooner. Is there another city you can take him to? A doctor there? Ignore your parents. They don’t live with him full time or see the things you see.