You can't control what others do. You can only control yourself. Tell them he has autism and leave it at that.

I want to add different point of view . As woman who has kids myself also having asberges . Too question 1 . Completely ignore the parents who judge your child . Your loyalty is with your child , how ever extreme the autism . Your child would sence your on his side and love you more and in the end that's going to make your life for filling and easier than constantly having to justify the actions of your son due to his medical condition .

Question 2 events and birthdays . Till this day I have issues with that . I rember my mam taking me I felt trapped and looking around was so scary I didn't understand the concept . To be honest all the people there looked uncomfortable and didn't even want to be there . It's important to let him guide you and if he doesn't want to simply don't take him . Others might say oh it stop his social understanding they talk rubbish . That's what I think any way . Good luck with what ever you decide and ❤️✌️ To your child x

Question 1 Don't let other people interrupt his form of stimming. It is not hurting anyone. Yes he will get agitated when some one intefere with his lining objects up. This is common in Autism. Another parent of a kid with Autism would recognize this. Scripting is also common in Autism. It can't be controlled it is his way of communication. 2nd Question always follow his lead. Sometimes crowds , noise , and smellls can be overstimulateing for some kids on the Spectrum. If it happens see if there is a quite place he can go and decompress. Also it just may not be a option to go to events if he overalll can't handle it. Or you may be in a position tio make a apperaance and leave. Again you will learn quickly what he can and cannot handle.

@A MyAutismTeam Member, you may want to repost your post as a different subject.

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I have found they are a lot more understanding when I tell them he is developmentally delayed. Keep going to the birthday parties. It’s super hard. We went to one at that age where he played with the birthday girls tutu (she had leggings on too) and the girl started crying and the dad accused my son of sexual inappropriateness because he said he lifted up her skirt. It was ridiculous, but parents and kids are all learning at that age. The parent later felt bad about that because other parents told him that kids that age don’t have those kinds of feelings yet. I got home from that party thinking I would never take him out again. But I kept taking him and he has had some really good times since. You are building a foundation for your child every time you take him. He’s 3. The parents are the silly ones if they won’t let a 3 year old mess up balloons or other party items that are meant to be played with and messed up. He deserves joy and access to social functions of celebrations.