Husbands
My husband is a wonderful man and great father. But, even after our daughter’s diagnosis, he doesn’t seem to try to be understanding of her HFA and tends to roll his eyes when she gets upset over little thing, which then upsets my daughter. I know women are by nature more nuturing, but has anyone else experienced this with their spouse soon after diagnosis?? How can I help him understand that our daughter thinks differently and will not react like a typical child her age??
This was me. I was in total denial. I made the mistake of treating her as a NT child and telling myself she was fine. I was always skeptical of ASD diagnoses and told myself she was just delayed. I missed out on the opportunity that early intervention could have provided and now I feel like I’m playing catch up. Don’t be me.
He needs to take her places by himself and see just how different she is. This makes me so mad because I've dealt with that and men can be so bull headed, at least the one's I've known.
@A MyAutismTeam Member, it takes a big person to admit what you did, kudos. As for you Supermom, my husband was the same way, but he never rolled his eyes, I would've kicked his booty. Luckily that never stopped me from getting my son the early intervention he needed, in so many ways, I felt alone, but I got it done, my son needed me. Advice, do what you have to do, but definitely call your husband on his eye rolling, that's unacceptable.
We are only a few weeks into this and my husband is a bit of a novice at handling our son's meltdowns. I stay at home with our son so naturally I know him a bit better. I typically take the lead when we are both home, but insist he is there to watch and see how I handle things. And then afterwards, if I have figured out the reason for the meltdown, I try to explain it to my husband. And we typically have a daily talk about what new things I have read or learned about our son. He gets frustrated just like everyone else. And sometimes he does make things worse cause he isn't able to handle things as I would. But I just keep talking to him about our son and try to explain things in a way that make senses to him.
I am sorry to hear that he rolls his eyes at this. This is real, and this is happening, and it is hard to see someone not accepting that. So far our families have been like that. Just keep trying to get through to him.
@A MyAutismTeam Member: That sounds exactly like my husband!!! He seems to get it when we talk, but then forgets everything when he is frustrated!!!!
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