My daughter is 15 yrs old and non-verbal, she was the hardest and the last of my three to be potty trained...my boys were potty trained at the ages of 3 yrs and 4 yrs old but my daughter was totally not interested... not even with rewards... I cried a many a day and night but finally had a long talk with myself about pushing her to be "normal"... well normal for me is not normal for her so I had to accept that and allow her to guide me along her journey.

After I stopped trying to make her do it my way and the way I read in tons of books... and man I tell you I have read tons and tons of books on Autism, the brain, the how to's and others experiences and how they did it.. even the un-potty training (allowing the child to just go completely nude in the restroom...sitting standing whatever they felt comfortable doing and allowing them to potty where ever...THAT DIDN'T EVEN WORK FOR MY MIND SO WE HAD TO TRASH THAT IDEA, but to each their own just not for me)...

But what did work was to allow her to mature in understanding (she was born at 23 weeks so delayed development was our first diagnosis) continue to encourage her in the restroom making it a routine and by the ripe old age of 12 years old she just GOT IT!!! we were blessed to purchase a home that had a restroom in her room and she just started going to the potty!!!!! MAN DID WE CELEBRATE!!! AND CELEBRATE... making her feel like she had accomplished the biggest thing in the world and to be honest SHE HAD! She was able to take care of her hygiene and that made life so much easier for her and the family! Now we did have to work on getting her panties on afterwards because she was just too distracted to take care of those minor details... she wanted to get to the hand washing and back to what she though was important her books and tablet...LOL... but we go that down to a science now and she is doing awesome!

DON'T GIVE UP ... AND DON'T PUSH TOO HARD... your babies will get it when they get it! I think sometimes its us as parents who want so badly for our children to do something other children are able to do so quickly and at a younger age that (speaking for myself and honestly) I didn't want to be embarrassed because as a mom I couldn't get my daughter/ tween potty trained... questioning looks of WOW SHE STILL ISN'T POTTY TRAINED?? how old is she...
So please don't allow anyone to question you or your child's normalcy... Autism Normal is not going to LOOK NOR FEEL the same as anyone else's NORMAL!

I hope that my experience helped someone dealing with an older child feel like they are NOT ALONE... YOU ARE NOT AND I SEND YOU HUGS, LOVE AND ACCEPTANCE!

Have a BEAUTIFUL day!

My boyfriend's autistic son was Still in diapers at 16 yrs old (he fit in largest sized child pull ups). He would use toilet to pee, but still would pee and poop in diaper. I worked for a year trying all tactics usually used, like every hour on the pot, trying to wait him out while on the pot, rewards, gentle scolding, etc. I tried not using diapers at all, thinking it would feel more unpleasant. He had improved on using toilet more often, but since there was no consequences, I think he figured what he was doing, was not a problem. It wasn't until I used his dislike of the shower as a way to clean his bum, when he pooped in diaper. I'm not sure exactly how much he understands verbally, but I think he figured out if he pooped in pants, the consequence was the shower hose. The boy loves baths and pool, and being sprayed by hose outside, but for some reason, the shower hose, is not appreciated. He still had accidents, usually on the long bus ride home, and my boyfriend would put diapers on, for that. But an expert I met online, said that would confuse him, which it did. He is 18 now, had one relapse where I had to do the every hour on the pot and shower tactic. Now he rarely has accidents. 😄 I used the money saved from not buying diapers, to get an above ground pool, so we are very happy that process is done.

My son just turned six. He pooped in the toilet for the first time. Boy!! did I celebrate. Just don’t give up just keep trying like I have been. It’s not an easy thing. God help us all.

We used an ap called see me go potty. I think it was from Avakid. Our girl was five when she finally got it. She watched that ap for quite a while before she repeated the steps shown. You can make the kid on the ap a boy or a girl and change hair and eye color. You also can put their name on their shirt. It even shows them how to wash their hands when they are through.
The choices to watch are number one, number two and accident.

I started when my child was 2 and he just turned 10 and FINALLY is potty trained. For the past 2 years he was mostly trained but sometimes for no apparent reason he would hide in the closet and poop. You need to watch the child's tendencies. If she has a BM after dinner then go to the potty then. I would do pee trip every 2 hours. Don't make them sit a long long time. When she has an accident calmly say pee and poop goes in the potty and go sit for a few minutes. It takes a lot of patience and the carpet was ruined, but you do whatever you have to do.