My son had tantrums and kicked when he was 3 years old. When we took all sugar away from his diet, he changed his behavior. He became co-operative and charming. We would read labels, it included added sugar in canned fruit, no cookies or sweet treats,no sweetened pop or fruit juices, and high protien. If he misbehaved, I would assume it was his diet and add a snack of high protien. I would carry peanuts in the shells with me, and he could snack on them often. It made a hugh differance, we kept him on this diet until he graduated high school.

Definitely praise as often as you can. Any time he is quiet and well behaved, make a big deal of it...hugs kisses rewards.... anything to praise the good behaviour

Our preschool (which has special ed experience) wrote up a behavioral plan with target behaviors (hitting, etc.), specific punishments (taking away a favorite item, timeouts, etc.), and rewards for good behavior. They implemented it at school and we also follow it at home. Everyone must follow the same plan consistently. It really worked for us.

If you are having an issue with a child hitting, why would you hit? If he is being aggressive and you are being agressive how would he see it is wrong. Its frutrating yes, but spanking is the exact same thing as hitting. You are doing exactly what he is. how would he know it is wrong to hit?

Reward good behavior, ignore bad behavior. If he is being agressive to you, place him on the couch, walk to the kitchen or someone where you can keep one eye on him. If he gets off the couch, place him back on gently. no words are needed, the simple action of placing him on the couch for some down time is enough. There is a bottle you can make called a "hush bottle". It has spakles and you shake it up, place it on the coffee table or even in his hands if his hands are calm. He will watch that and calm down. have an activity planned once he gets off the couch.

i am sorry if this sounds harsh, i just cant beleive spanking is acceptable.

ignoring generally works the best for these behaviors. but ignoring along with at other times and before the negative behavior teaching an alternate behavior (99% of the time is communication need) teaching him a way to "say" I want something, or I don't like that or pay attention to me…ect.