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Will My Autistic Son Findvlove When He Grows Up?

A MyAutismTeam Member asked a question 💭
Columbus, OH

I can't help but wonder if my son will grow up,get married,and have a family of his own. He is just a little boy right now, high functioning, affectionate to his loved ones, but knowing the mentality and social disconnect that is present in autistics, I can't help but wonder if he would ever feel the need for a spouse. Is there anyone out there who have autistic children, grandchildren, loved ones, or you yourself who is autistic and dating/married?

November 16, 2013
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A MyAutismTeam Member

I have an Autistic Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and I'm married with three children. Yes, we do date and get married. Can't say I dated very much growing up but I was fortunate enough to have met someone who appreciates my differences.

November 17, 2013
A MyAutismTeam Member

My son is 28 years old so we have lived a lifetime of these types of concerns. What I have learned is that it does no one any good to worry about these things. Stay focused on today, what you can do for him right now and how to help him navigate his life. The future will get here either way, so embrace today and stop worrying about 20 years from now. Had I only know this......Had I only understood. I send you hugs and support

May 27, 2016
A MyAutismTeam Member

My husband has Asbergers and I find him to be one of the most caring individuals you could ever meet. He shows his love to me and my daughter, though he still displays some characteristics. For example when we first met I thought he forgot about our date or didn't like me after all he would show up hours later because he would be so involved in his music. Needless to say he liked me and we went out- though I was wearing curlers because I was ready to give up and just get ready for bed. That believe it or not, was the night I met his mother. It's interesting and normal to question this. But be assured that autistic people can love to. And did I mention - with passion : )

November 18, 2013
A MyAutismTeam Member

I have to disagree with that we have to have friends to get married etc... I have social anxiety... you just have to be at the right place at the right time. :O)

June 10, 2016
A MyAutismTeam Member

I think that answer is the same for any other child. It depends on them. They may not want to... a lot of people don't. And they are perfectly happy with that. Others do and they are miserable that they did. And vice-versa. This is certainly something only time will tell. But, I know for a fact (no matter what some may suggest otherwise) that is is entirely possible for someone with Autism or Asperger's to find love, get married, have children and grow old happy. :)

But your child is an individual with an uncertain future regardless of his or her diagnosis. I wouldn't worry about it right now. Just enjoy them while they are young. Don't focus on when they are older and let it worry you or over-excite you just be at peace with the here and now.

March 27, 2016

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