Can you contact the other provider that did give you the diagnosis, they should be able to give you copies of the their findings. If you can change to another provider. If she does not believe in something that is recognized by the rest of the medical world she does not sound like a good doctor to see for any reason.

I think the red flag has been raised and is flying high in this case. i would not only go to someone else, but I would not use this person as my primary at all, i would pick a new one. I do not care how good she is with other issues, if she makes a staupid statement like the one she made about being verbal what other mistakes is she going to make in your childs care.

"told me she's absolutely not autistic because she is able to speak."
This statement right here should be grounds for having this person's medical license taken away, and is absolute proof they are completely unqualified to diagnose autism. Try Children's Hospital if you have one in your area, or look through Autism Speaks for centers in your area that diagnose neuropsychological and neurobehavioral disorders. If you need a referral, just go to your GP and tell them you need one. Good luck!

@MicheleKohan I looked it up, and it looks like it's not available in SC, only NC. I'm going to take a look and see if there's something similar in SC.

The best thing I ever did was to seek an evaluation at the TEACCH office. I see you are located in SC so that may be an option for you ...they are awesome and now I have a full detailed evaluation and diagnosis in writing. I can't tell you how many doors this will open for you.