If you're asking if a person with autism has issues with feeling entitlement, I'd say no... that isn't a real symptom of autism. However, I can see how it would be possible for a child or person with autism being seen as having feelings of entitlement, or even possibly actually having them.

The issue, however, I believe has more to do with their inability to cope with situations out of their control. Not wanting to or being willing to sway. But, much like anyone else, people with autism have their own personalities and attitudes. Some are egotistical, some are shy, some naive, some outgoing, some loud, some quiet. Some just want attention while others could care less if there was another person on this planet. It's more human nature than it is autism.

It all really depends on who you're talking about here, and why you feel they are putting on this sense of entitlement attitude.

I have to say it helps to know 1. It's possibly and age issue and 2. Someone who has gone through it saw a light at the end of the tunnel. I have begun a chore system where she can earn and buy things she wants herself to give her that sense of pride and accomplishment but I was worried about how I was handling it since she has autism. It's important to me that she understands why not just accepts it. Thank you so much you're advice has allowed me to relax a little about the situation and I hope everything is well with your family:)

At 11, that, in my opinion, seems to be more of an age thing. Although, if she struggles with autism, it doesn't make it easier. Set boundaries and let her know she's not the only person there. It can be hard, sometimes, for people with autism to understand how those around them feel. This has to do with not picking up social cues easily, and for anyone struggling with eye contact, obviously not seeing the face means even less chance they are reading emotions of those around them.

Has she ever had therapy for social cues training? Does she understand body language and/or facial expressions?

I'd make it a point to gently, but firmly let her know that her attitude is unwanted and harmful to others feelings. Being self-centered, self-absorbed, and demanding can damage her relationships with family and peers. Just because she wants something, doesn't mean she will always get it. If she's set on obtaining things, for example; clothing, toys, etc. Make her earn them. This instills pride in accomplishing a goal, and working towards getting a reward. At this age, it's a great time to start doing these things. As in the real world, she'll have to work to buy things she wants, learn to manage her money, and what have you. Stand your ground. Hopefully, if she sees that you wont be swayed by her attitude or behavior, she'll quit. But if she continues to get worse or shows no improvement, seek out a counselor for her to see.

But again, this is, in my opinion, more of an age thing. My eldest son has gone through this at about the same age. When I'd have to buy diapers for his brother, or new clothing (because unlike older kids, you know, little ones need a new size every 6 months!!) and he'd throw the worst fits in the store if I didn't drop everything and buy HIM something... and not just any small thing, he'd want a brand new game system or a $70 lego set, while I was out buying second-hand clothing for his baby brother. And If I said no... right in the middle of the store he'd yell that I didn't love him and I never buy him anything and he deserves to have these things. That didn't last long when I went home and took away his Xbox and TV and threatened to donate all of his legos to children in need.

Thank you for your responses. I have an 11year old high functioning autistic daughter and I'm trying to figure out if her all of the sudden "me me me" stage is hormones, lack of discipline or autism or a little bit of all. Any advice is helpful she just doesn't seem to grasp the concept of "the world doesn't revolve around you"